Raising the Bar... What it meant in our house...

In dealing with a new child in the house, making it three of them in a very simular age choices became different. With our own sons things were traveling along with a smooth progression as we taught them choice making along the way, then things changed. Our nephew being nearly the same age as the other two and having a different set of standards in which choices were made a new chalange came about, how to make better choices. So we adopted the saying "how can we raise the bar" on this choice? It became clear that we really had to do this exercise in full detail to create a new image on this, making it a teachable moment.

I / we had many a conversation at great lengths to help him make better choices. In doing this our parenting style with our own children begun to change, creating more outcome scenarios so they could see the difference as well. This new style kept us on our toes, then the children began to tell us what the better choice would be for them. So we hope and pray that we taught enough about raising the bar that they will carry it into adulthood, its all we can do as guardians / parents.